Stop giving a F*ck. Just stop.

What’s the case for not giving a fuck?

We are not going to create if we are constantly worried about what people are going to say. Is it easy to do? Surely not.

This is not easy, especially at the beginning when we don’t have this “no caring at all” experience. Besides, the more we do it, the easier it becomes. The first steps won’t be easy as we are not used to it. In fact, this is exactly just like implementing a new habit in our life. It’s hard, it takes time, but we learn along the process, and at the end we get better.

One key point which can be painful, is, others’ judgment.

Our first question might be: where that feedback comes from? Is it from a relative? Is it from the Internet?

WHO IS RIGHT ?

If the feedback comes from the relative, we might take time to explain our wish to do so, and to show them what it can bring to us. That is time that we want to invest in such activity, and it provides good feelings and well as satisfaction, which might be more understandable.

If the feedback comes from the Internet. Great. We will delete and move ahead! What I mean by this, is that apart from taking it as a constructive argument, in general, this feedback is just based upon hate.

How can we imagine that someone can judge our work and criticize it (no usable ones), even hate you for doing so, just 10 000 KM away from our home?

SOCIAL PRESSURE

Nowadays with social networks, we all have this kind of anxiety, or fear when we deal with our news feed. This is easy to have 1 000 subscriptions and care about others life. Is it to delete and only keep the ones that are valuable? Does our favourite influencer care about us? Do WE really (like really really) care about our influencer’s life?

Liking posts, unliking videos or commenting on the Internet is easy. Lots of people daily unleash their hate on qualitative content. Are they missing something? Is this jealousy? Should we listen to them? Of course not. Have they done anything like you did? Maybe not if they act this way.

We should just look at our life and see how things could change. We should do the stuff we have always wanted to do. We should take action over thinking to do it.

At first, it can be something with no importance, just like your hairs.

MY EXPERIENCE

I wanted to quikly share with you some facts based upon my recent experience, I have been cutting myself my hairs for more than 8 months now. Sometimes with the help of my (non-experimented) friends but usually on my own. Needless to say that, people have talked about it, and laughed at me. But that’s ok.

At first it wasn’t easy because this is something that people first look at, and even now, sometimes it tickles me but not as much as before. In fact, I don’t care, more particularly because I know that I will be able to make myself nice haircuts (well… I hope ^^’), and because I just overcame my fear to do it. I am one step ahead from the others. That’s the key. In fact, do I care about my hairs? Well, that’s is just hairs. I don’t.

MARK MANSON

Mark Manson (american writer), in his book entitled “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*c k [...]” stipulates that “There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter” which deals with the idea that using time to spread oneself between too many activities is energy consuming and doesn’t really the optimum result as if we were focused on key, liked, activity. The idea of prioritization is key and it leads to review our daily actions.

Besides, he also writes that “true wealth is about experience”. The idea is that, beyond the “if you want something done, do it by yourself” and part from money, learning to live a good life stands for experimenting things. Doing things, experimenting, stepping out of our comfort zone, is the key to feel more satisfied and fulfilled.

OUR CLOSET

One other example could be the closet. Having a look at its own closet is something to do.

How much time have you ever think about "I need to get rid of those clothes"? The answer might deal a few times already. Did e moved?

Where I want to land is there: on a daily basis, how much do we care about what people wear? Do we even pay attention to what others wear? Have you noticed that your colleague Cathy has bought a new shirt? Or that the James have a new trousers?

No? No way! That’s a shame! :P

Should we ask the ourselves the same question? Do I care about how I look to others as far as I feel good with myself? The fact is that, depending on our job, you can more or less be original in the way you look. Apart from that, wearing the same shirt every day or that dress, could be something usual to us. Do you have this special outfit that when you wear you feel super great, and sometimes invincible? Yes? Great buy it in several numbers.

Who cares ? Nobody gives a shit about what you are wearing.

Nobody cares.

CONCLUSION

If we want to conclude, this is all about values if we think about it. As long as our actions fit into those values, it works. We know that we are in line with them, and that is enough. When we understand such mindset, everything becomes a “HELL YES”, and we start forgetting about others opinions.

NB: do like Tim.